Happy Belated Birthday

twins celebrating 2nd birthday

As summer is coming to its end, I can’t help but feel that it was a whirlwind of time quickly gone by. I feel like I am constantly playing catch up and my to do list keeps getting longer.   

Our summer began with a birthday. Two years ago I gave birth to twin boys, tilting my world on its axis and warping time at an incredible pace. It is hard to believe we are celebrating two years with them on earth.

Able to Enjoy

Thankfully, this year was not as much of a blur as the first.   Where the first year of our lives together was mostly about survival and problem solving, this past year has been about falling in love.

It is not that I didn’t love them when they were infants but I was so consumed with trying to get through each day and figure out what the hell I was doing.   Year two has been so much easier, allowing me to sit back a bit more and watch them become who they are. It has been overwhelming and awe-inspiring in the most joyful way.   It is a gift to watch a human being develop into a person who is joining our community more and more every day.

In Awe 

I still marvel at what they have accomplished in the span of 1 year. It is far more than basically everyone else I know. In 365 days they learned to walk, run, jump, ride their bikes and dance in a strange sort of gyrating fashion.

We went from “mama” & “owl” to word after word after word, them greatly absorbing more and more. I will never lose sight of the power of watching someone go from knowing nothing about language to fully speaking and understanding everything I say to them. They learned their colors and their letters. The moon and the sun. Every animal sound, including some I had to make up, because learning the basics was not enough.

Transitions 

They turned a year and soon had to let go of things that brought them such comfort.  Gone were the pacifiers, the bottles and their diapers.  They use the potty, which was no small feat.  They trusted me and I trusted them and they let go of the safety of those things that brought them security and comfort and began walking into the “big kid” world with grace and trust. 

They traveled across the country and back twice like well-traveled pros…well almost but who hasn’t really had some sort of meltdown on a plane. They greet each new experience with a genuine mix of excitement and nervousness but willing to try it all.

The human being is amazing to watch develop. It truly is something so powerful to watch a being go from zero to a walking and talking person, and these two are no exception.

Personalities Starting to Shine Through

Beyond all the motor and physical skills they have accomplished in 1 year it is who they are that has been the real gift.   In a sense, they came into the world as one but it is quite clear they are their own person.  

Kellan has no fear, he will climb a tree, run down a hill, jump into a pool in a heartbeat.   Atlas seems to sense there is some danger to those things, however, once he has accomplished it he will keep going until he has mastered it.   Atlas seems to enjoy problem solving, he likes to watch how something is done and then tries to master it on his own. Kellan is a more peripheral learner. I am always shocked when he does something because most of the time I have never even seen him attempt it.

Thankfully, they both have a sense of humor. Atlas likes to pretend to do things that are funny or make a funny face for a laugh. He likes to plan the joke. Kellan is naturally a goof ball. He is constantly putting on a show and yet, hasn’t a clue how funny he is. Atlas is truly agreeable where Kellan is sincerely dramatic. They are both gentle and sweet and follow directions shockingly well for 2 year olds.

Grateful

I love what this past year has been and sometimes feel like my heart might burst when I watch these two little boys blissfully navigate their way through life.

Even now, in these few shorts months of summer, they have taken age 2 by storm. My admiration for them is building and building and I am realizing it will probably limitless. So as I try to hang on to each moment, I still can’t help be excited about seeing who they are now continue to grow into who they will be in the future.

 

Clean Up On Aisle…Don’t Boys Need Household Toys Too?

twin toddlers playing with toys broom

Every time I try to sweep both of the boys always want to help. Given that I have one broom and dustpan, it ends up being a fight over who gets to use it and my room doesn’t get swept. I figured the best solution was to get each of them a kids broom and dustpan and we would all sweep the floors together.  So off we went to Toys R Us to get them their cleaning supplies.

Girls vs. Boys

Our quest for children’s cleaning supplies took a disappointing turn to the “little girl’s” section of the store where any sort of household item was either pink or purple.  Neither my husband nor I care about our boys having toys that are pink, that was not the issue.  I get that a lot of little girls naturally love pink and purple, but by having these items in stereo-typical girls colors we are telling our little girls that any cooking, cleaning, house-hold duty is clearly their responsibility.  

There was not one item in blue, green, yellow or any other color in the spectrum.  I have to say it was infuriating as a woman and as a mother to boys.  Does being a boy mean they don’t have to learn to become a productive member of their home?  

Equality in the Home

Women make up about 47% of the workforce today and I am sure that number will increase by the time the boys enter the workforce.  So doesn’t that mean that men should make up at least 47% of the work in the home?  I feel like most people I know live in a house where it is a shared duty to take care of what you have.  What are we trying to teach our children and why are toy companies and stores still so behind the mark?

That is why I was beyond delighted to hear that Target is moving away from gender based signs. Finally someone is starting to get it.  Of course I knew this news would unleash a litany of opinions from people who, in my opinion, must still live underground.

I was even more delighted to find out that a guy name Mike decided to pose as a Target Customer Service Rep and respond to the insane complaints people had upon hearing this news.  I spent a long time scrolling through his responses and I have to say it was genius.  If you are looking for a much-needed laugh one night check it out.

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Let’s Step Into The Now

Why people are so afraid of Target’s decision is beyond me.  Just as it is even more confusing why the toy company doesn’t think to make a green toy vacuum.  I would think one of the joys of working at a toy company would be the ability to utilize their imagination to the fullest. Making pink only household supplies does not fall on the creative spectrum.

Needless to say we did not buy their cleaning supplies that day.  For two reasons, I was pissed and they were kind of expensive.  So I went to Target and bought them there, which in light of their recent decision, I am glad I did.

In the meantime, I will try to support stores and companies who work at not putting our kids in a box.  I will also try to be an example to my guys of what it actually means to be a woman and they will continue to help me with cleaning and cooking, even when they eventually realize it is not all that fun.  

 

 

 

 

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