I remember my mother sending me care packages in college, and often in the card was an article she clipped out of a newspaper or magazine, warning me about some danger I could be facing. The articles like “How I Got Skin Cancer at 21” or “Girl on College Campus Car-jacked.” There was always a post-it note attached “This is why you need sunscreen!”
I was always so annoyed by these, especially the ones that had no relevance in my life. How was I going to get car-jacked when I didn’t even own a car? What I did not know, could not know, was that the moment you become a mother, your worry gauges suddenly explode.
The day you see that positive sign on a pregnancy test you begin to question everything! And it only intensifies once they are born.
I am only a handful of years into this parenting thing, but what I have found to be the best remedy for my mom worry is, other moms. Moms have been through it all. And because of that, they offer the best advice, a much-needed shoulder to lean on and the perfect sounding board.
When you spend time with other moms you soon realize your kid is just like all the other kids. The other kids bite too. The other kids won’t each anything but pasta as well. The other kid throws themselves on the store floor just like yours does. The other kid got sick 10 times their first year of school also.
Thankfully with technology, your mom tribe can reach beyond our neighborhood. Sometimes a member of your mom tribe is a someone you only know through social media, but has provided you with some truly sound advice. For me, as a mom to twins, I have found online support from some amazing Mamas of multiples. It has been incredibly reassuring to know other moms, across the globe, are experiencing the exact same problems I am.
And sometimes, it is just all meeting up at the local playground. The kids all run around carefree, while the moms talk, getting off their chest anything that has been bothersome, worrying or stressful. I promise you will leave that play-date feeling so much better and with that extra boost of patience that you didn’t have before.
Having a mom tribe helps you understand that your kid is actually normal. And so are you! So don’t be afraid to reach out or join a group, you won’t regret it!
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Also published on Medium.